We get one life. It is our responsibility to live it well. Here is my manifesto for A Good Life Well Lived.
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #1 – Embrace Your ‘Youness’
You have a unique mix of skills, qualifications, qualities and personality. Embrace your unique ‘youness’ in all it’s gloriously perfect imperfection.
Acknowledge your quirks, be proud of your idiosyncrasies. Without them you wouldn’t be you. Despite what you may believe, you are enough, exactly as you are.
You are WAY more capable than you ever give yourself credit for.
Stop comparing yourself to other people. They are not you and you are not them.
Head down, eyes in your own lane, the only thing you need to do is BE YOU.
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #2 – Take Responsibility for Your Choices
You have choices. I want you to read that again and let it sink in.You have choices.
No matter what situation you are in or how stuck you feel, there are always choice. You have the power to make the best choice for you.
Be curious. Explore the options available and take responsibility for the choices that you make. You are in the driving seat.
The choice you make today might not be the same choice you would have made 5 years ago. It might not be the same choice you will make in 5 years time, but it is right for you today.
Get clear on your own beliefs, values and principles. Use them as your internal compass to help guide your decision making.
No matter who you are, there will be things in your life that you can and can not control.
Use your internal compass to guide your decisions about the things that you can control.
Let go of those things that you can not control.
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #3 – Show Up and Do The Work
Once you have figured out what you want from your one ‘wild and precious life’ then you need to do the work to make it happen. Every Single Day.
Show up for the people that matter to you. Show up for the things that matter to you.
Some days you will find great joy in showing up and it will make you feel alive and purposeful. And some days showing it will be difficult and uncomfortable. You still need to show up.
Don’t let life pass you by. If something is important to you then follow through on it. If you think something is unfair then be brave enough to take action.
As human beings we overestimate what we can achieve in a day and underestimate what we can achieve in a year. Know where you want to go and then do the work every single day to get you there and you will achieve great things.
Every small action that you take in the right direction is moving you forward. I call it the 1% nudge. We won’t get from A to B in one go. But every step forward is a nudge in the right direction. Even if it only moves us forward by 1% or 0.1% it’s still a nudge and it all adds up.
These little nudges that you make will have a ripple effect. Very soon these nudges and ripples will add up and get you where you want to go.
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #4 – Acknowledge Your Strengths
We are all good at something. Identify and acknowledge your strengths and OWN THEM.
When people praise you, don’t be modest or try to deflect. Smile and say thank you.
We’ve all got an inner critic, it’s that little voice in our head that niggles away and tells us that we are not good enough. When your inner critic starts to whisper sweet nothings in your ear, smile sweetly, stick two fingers up at it and say ‘thanks for sharing your thoughts but I’m in charge here’.
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #5 – Be Human
Show kindness. Say good morning to the people you walk past every day. Smile at the cashier. Pick up the rattle that the toddler has dropped out of the pushchair. Show compassion to those who are having a difficult time.
When life is good. Pay it forward. Either with time or with money. When life isn’t so good. Still pay it forward.
Nine times out of ten there will be people in a worse position than you. And when you are in a worse position than others wouldn’t you like to be on the receiving end of some kindness?
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #6 – Recognise Your Importance
In a world of 7.7 billion people it is tempting to feel insignificant. To your inner circle – your husband, wife, partner, mother, father, brother, sister, children, close friends and allies – you matter. More than you can possibly imagine.
Channel your energy into nurturing these relationships that support you. Make time for them. Let them know how important they are to you and remember how important you are to them.
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #7 – Enjoy the Journey
Don’t waste time doing things you don’t enjoy or spend time with people that don’t light you up.
Be passionate about your work and your life. What do you love? What do you want to share with others? Do it like you mean it!
Things will go wrong. You will make mistakes. Learn from your mistake, then pick yourself up, dust yourself off and take the next step.
It doesn’t need to be a big next step. Remember it only needs to be a 1% nudge.
Life is full of twists and turns, some of them you can control and some of them you can’t. Be open to what comes your way.
We all have a limited time to be alive. Enjoy it and embrace the seasons that you will travel through on this journey.
Accept the season that you are in, don’t fight against it, there’s little, if nothing that you can do to change it.
Enjoy the good times and appreciate the lessons that you learn from the more difficult times. Every day is an adventure, if you choose to see it that way.
The Good Life Well Lived Rule #8 – Be Grateful
You are a living, breathing human being on planet earth. You live in one of the most exciting and influential times in the history of the world. Stop thinking about the things that you don’t have in your life and start appreciating all that you do have.
Cultivate gratitude. Make it a daily practice to help you keep a positive attitude and celebrate the magic moments in your good life.
Life is good. Live it well.